Thursday, September 26, 2013

Avoiding Family Wedding Drama

I have met many couples that absolutely adore their in-laws. I have met other couples, however, that can't stand the families of their soon-to-be spouses. How do you plan a special day, such as a wedding, without having any family drama? It's simple, nip it before it happens.

The best way to avoid any family drama during your wedding is to allow an open seating setting. If you spend time and hours worrying about who will sit where, you are bound to end up with complaints and irritations. Make sure that your venue or location offers round tables to initiate conversation (you don't want awkward silence) and let your family, friends and guests pick their own table companions.

I have also heard many couples say "I don't want to invite her, she will cause drama." My solution is the opposite. NOT inviting a family member can create even more drama with other family members. It is best to just be the bigger person and invite everybody. If they come, they come - and you don't have the stress of being blamed.

Allocating jobs to parents and other important family members is also a way to keep the peace. If you assign your mother a job, your mother in law a job and all of your sisters (and sister in laws), they may feel important and not worry what the others will be doing.

My most important advice is to be HAPPY. If you don't allow yourself to worry about "nonsense". It is YOUR day and nobody else should be the center of attention!